live a life of love

How hard was it to fall in love? It was never a problem, remember those little crushes we all had with this extraordinary person that we just couldn't forget. I'm sure we all have experienced it before. The joy of having a crush on someone and than that feeling develops and soon you realised you're in love. 

But, love could be such a volatile thing. It comes and goes, sometimes the feeling just doesn't grow and soon, you would forget the person. Life goes on and one day you would than meet another new crush, and the cycle continues. And maybe this time, fate and destiny would allow a mutual bond between the two love birds. 

Interestingly thought, falling in love is so easy and there is not much effort required. All it matters is that things goes in the right place at the right time and we only have to leave it up for fate to decide. Not much of the thing to do other than caring and looking out for that person more which comes naturally. Whereas, keeping in a loving relationship takes much much more effort. Which in most cases causes relationships to fail in this era, people are no longer valuing relationships as something that is irreplaceable, people have this mindset that.. damn.. there must be a guy/girl out there that is better than my boyfriend/girlfriend.. his/she's such an asshole. Which is theoretically true as everyone's view of "better" is different and there is surely someone that has a strength over another person. Which results in a much much higher rate of separation than  during the medieval period. 

So... you may wonder, than how am I suppose to actually achieve my "happily ever after" ending. Well, it's not possible..... Just kidding! Look at all those loving couples that lived together for more than half a century, holding hands and gazing at each other with that infatuating look. There must be a secret to their happy relationship, maybe they were just lucky. However, I actually did some research and found the little secret that may be the key to such a relationship that every couple ought to die for....

Stage #1 The infatuation stage.

Stage #2 The understanding stage.
Stage #3 The stage of disturbances.
Stage #4 The opinion maker.
Stage #5 The moulding stage.
Stage #6 The happy stage.
Stage #7 The stage of doubts.
Stage #8 The sexual exploration or bust stage.
Stage #9 The stage of complete trust.

So yup, there are 9 stages that every relationship has to undertake in order to have this little "happily ever after" ending. Quite a pain in the ass I must say, it should have been more simple like falling in love and what not. Bah. Still! I'm going to work on this with my loving partner, and hopefully lady luck is on our side. Everything would go as planned, married, kids, kids graduation, retirement... and stuff like that. Such is life. Simple. Plain. Yet people fight so hard to live. While some gave up halfway, my heart goes out to these people. May they find their path soon.

As for myself, I really really really hope, that my significant half and I would work our way out of stage 3 soon. It's really really really annoying these days. Things just don't go our way and most of the time we have to compromise to the extend that we even quarrel, or even get sicked of quarreling. Well! "Happily Ever After" is what I promised but both of us have to work for it. So, yup. It's glad that I'm actually working with you to fulfill my promise. 

Right now, I just have to do something to make it happen again.

Life is wonderful, interesting and fulfilling! right on.